Do You REALLY want to heal?
Whether or not you heal IS up to you, even if you don’t think it is.
The other day, I was talking with a friend whose sister has cancer. He was very concerned about her and so were the doctors. He went on to explain that she had been to many specialists, and they just don’t think she’ll make it very long. With just a few questions, I come to find out that she was still drinking diet sodas and other artificially flavored drinks. And, unfortunately for her and her family, it sounds like her diet was the least of her concerns, and it wasn’t going to change.
In the past, when I would hear that someone was ill or unhappy, I was immediately drawn to help them. I wanted to share information about healing and show them a way out of their pain. I realize now that my need to help others is not always matched with a need to heal. See, sometimes pain serves us. It seems crazy, but people must to really want to heal if they are going to heal. They can’t just want to be healthy and not do the work.
So, what now? I love to share information with others on ways they can improve their lives, but I realize now that not everyone really wants to improve things. I know many people who have illnesses, but continue with an unhealthy diet and unhealthy habits like smoking. I’ve found that all I can do is listen and be open to what it is that each person needs, whether it’s some help or just someone to hear their story.
After a closer examination of my own life, I realize that I also fall victim to the same game… just in different arenas of my life. I talk a big talk about wanting to dress nicer, wear jewelry, and have my hair and nails done just so, etc. But, the truth is, my life is easier without all that right now. See, I have a toddler and by the end of the day my hair, clothes, and nails are a mess… no matter how they started. And, my time right now is better spent doing other things that hold a higher priority.
So, my question to you is… do you really want to heal? Many people are on the “I want to lose weight” rollercoaster or talk about eating healthier or getting in shape. I wonder if they enjoy talking about it more than they would actually enjoy the end goal. See, if you were to lose weight, you might get a LOT of attention from others and you may subconsiously not want it or you may simply enjoy your anonymity now. Perhaps adopting a healthier diet sounds appealing, but if you did, you would actually have to eat a healthier diet and perhaps you’d really rather enjoy the “unhealthy” things your currently eat. Also, many people want to heal from illnesses like cancer, but do they really? If healing means needing to eat a certain way and making a change in lifestyle, then the answer for many people is no. Just look at their choices. This can be very hard for family, loved ones, and anyone to watch. I’m sure you can find examples of some of these very close to home, even in your own life.
What will you choose? To heal or not to heal? Do you find yourself hoping to heal different areas in your life or claiming to make changes and not following through? If yes, a thorough investigation of the reasons that may be keeping you from what you think you’d like may just be what you need to decide to make it happen or let it go. What are your priorities? That extra serving or to be thin? To maintain your freedom to enjoy an indulgent and unhealthy lifestyle or to overcome cancer? We can’t judge people’s choices, because everyone is on their own path unique to them. See, an extra serving may just help absorb emotions that are almost out of control. So, until the emotions are addressed, perhaps the extra serving is more important than to be thin.
I have become so much more aware of how we are all doing our best with what we have and what we know, no matter the case. In every situation, we can help others greatly by simply having an open heart and accepting the path they choose, even if we might lose them. You might even find that accepting and just listening to others can open them up to what you know and how you might help them.
What is your experience with this? Please share.
Lots of Light,